Having a positive mindset is more important than you might think. When I was younger, I didn’t really buy into it. My parents were always telling me though how changing your outlook on life can be a huge game changer. I wasn’t quite convinced until I was in high school, and I realized that, yeah, being more optimistic can affect a whole lot of things. When something goes wrong, staying positive can be the difference between feeling like the world is about to end and knowing that whatever went wrong is just a roadblock.
I used to be pretty down on myself all the time. In high school, it was really bad. I didn’t think I was worth a whole lot. I constantly picked at my flaws. I kept telling myself that I was never good enough.
Now, keeping a positive outlook on life is not a cure for every moment you’re feeling down. It’s okay to let yourself be sad now and then, as long as you know you will get back up and come back better than before.
A lot of my negative feelings toward myself when I was growing up stemmed a lot of times from my anxiety and comparing myself to pretty much everyone else. I have always been competitive, and the biggest competition I had was myself. There’s a difference between being hard on yourself and being self-motivated. That took me a while to learn.
Since coming to college, I have continuously challenged myself to think positive. It’s harder than I thought it would be, especially when I’m overwhelmed or feeling anxious.
My dad says that if you think good things, then good things will come to you. And I am a firm believer that everything works out in the end just like it’s supposed to.
Mentally, I have grown a lot. I am much better at dispelling negative thoughts and I’m learning to be easier on myself. I don’t compare myself to others as much as I used to. I can love myself now without feeling undeserving.
Of course, you will relapse at times and fall back on those negative feelings. Take a minute, feel it and then let it go.
Don’t be afraid to embrace life, or think the best of every person you meet, even if there’s a chance of them deceiving you. Give second chances and stop being afraid to speak up.
And remember that being positive doesn’t make you naïve.