I’m all for a t-shirt that says something funny. I was surprised to find this shirt at J. Crew Factory, and since I also love sushi, I knew it was meant to be.
One thing I wanted to bring up is the struggles of being a people pleaser. Yes, I am also one. Even though I will stand up for what’s right, even if it means upsetting someone, I also just want people to get along and be happy. For example, I love making people laugh. I live off of the tiny burst of adrenaline I get from making someone laugh or smile. I eat laughter for breakfast.
I will go head to head with someone if I have to, but I usually try not to. And I always tell myself that it’s about picking your own battles, and choosing them wisely. But sometimes I feel like this is used as a cop out sometimes just so everyone can stay smiling. There’s been times in the past where I won’t say anything because I don’t feel like starting a fight, even if that fight is worth it. I hate drama, and I hate it when people are mad or upset with me. So I try to avoid starting conflict.
But, there comes a time where you realize you can’t let everything slip by you. I always notice when people don’t keep their word, especially if it happens a lot. You have to let people know, at least, that you recognize exactly what they’re doing. You don’t have to make it into an argument, but letting them know what you’re seeing, or what you’re feeling when they act a certain way, is important. Otherwise, it builds up (like it does a lot with me, oops) and then it can burst out of you later, and in ways you might kick yourself for later.
You can’t let people step all over you, even if you really don’t have the energy for more conflict in your life. Especially if they try to manipulate you into thinking differently, recognize it for what it is: sometimes when people see how laid back you are, they believe they can get away with treating you with less respect than they demand themselves. It’s okay to be laid back and keeps things light hearted, as long as the people in your life know that you deserve respect too.